It is difficult being a teen. There’s so much negativity out there in the world that can have you going every which a way and enough to make your head spin. There might be a time where you may not know who you are, you’re embarrassed or uncomfortable with yourself or you’re being teased about basically being you. Your teenage self esteem gets low and you have nowhere to turn.
I know that it can be a lot to take, but the important thing is to learn how to get through these situations.
You are a very unique and special person. Why? Because there is no one else out there like you. It doesn’t matter if you have an identical twin or a conjoined sibling. You have your own brain and personality and no one else is just like you. That should first be something to be proud of.
You should never try to change who you are to appease others. By doing this, you are not being true to yourself or others. You come off as being “fake.”
People are going to judge you and talk about you no matter what you look like or what you do. You could be the most perfect person on this earth and someone will try their hardest to find something negative about you. Mostly it’s because they aren’t happy with themselves. Their teenage self esteem may be low as well.
All you can do is continue being who you are and not give two damns about what others are saying. This may be difficult to do, but it’s the only way to beat them.
How You Carry Yourself Says Plenty
Feeling good about who you are is a great feeling. However, not many teens do. Some may be overweight, shy, insecure about their body, and may feel like they are ugly. When things like this happen, you may start to down yourself. You begin to get depressed, you walk with your head down and you want to disappear off the face of the earth when you get talked about.
This is the wrong way to go. You need to love yourself first off, no matter what. If you have a minor cosmetic thing that you want to fix about yourself, then fix it. If you are overweight and you want to lose weight for health reasons, then do it. But don’t lose the weight because you are getting picked on or because you can’t find a boyfriend or make friends.
In that aspect, it’s all about how you carry yourself. If you’re shy and always walking with your head down and being anti-social, then you won’t get that much attention. Not to mention that bullies tend to feed on people who appear weaker than they are.
I don’t care if you are 100 pounds or 1000 pounds overweight. If you walk around with confidence and with your head held high, then no one can touch you. I’ve seen many, and I mean many, girls who are overweight with boyfriends.
When I was in high school, many of my overweight friends had boyfriends. Why? Because they had confidence in themselves. They walked around school like they couldn’t be touched. They weren’t hiding and disappointed in the way they looked. They were proud of who they were or what they looked like and I gave them the up most respect because of that.
Now I’m not saying walk around town like you own the joint, but you need to have a high level of self confidence. This will go a long way as you get older.
Other teens are going through the same things that you are. So you have acne or a huge birthmark on your face. Everyone gets pimples because it’s a sign of puberty and many people have birthmarks that are in a place where they don’t want them.
Don’t get depressed and don’t let other people get to you when they make stupid comments. Remember, people are going to say what they want to say no matter what and you can’t change that. The only thing you can change is how you respond to it.