3 Questions to Ask Yourself Before Having Sex

3 QuestionsNow a days everybody is having sex. Everything is sex, sex, sex. Well let me tell you, it’s not all what it’s cracked up to be.

It’s easy to feel like the outcast when you’re the only virgin in the group.

But you know what, I bet a lot of people would give anything to be a virgin or to have their first time back again.

Sex is a serious step and you definitely want to make sure that you’re prepared for it. It’s not something you just jump into.

There are several reasons not to have sex. But if you must and before you take that leap, there are a few questions you should ask yourself…

1. Are You Having Sex for the Right Reasons?

ReasonsI received a question from a young lady asking me about sex. Her friends told her that she just needs to do it.

I’m thinking to myself, “What the hell???”

That is so not the answer! If you’re thinking about having sex just so you can find out what it’s like then you’re making a huge mistake.

Sex isn’t like trying a random food. It’s not something you do just to find out what’s it’s like. It’s a serious step.

If you’re going to have sex, make sure it’s for the right reasons and most importantly… make sure it’s YOUR CHOICE and not someone else’s.

2. Do You Have Protection?

ProtectionJust in case you don’t know, having unprotected sex can lead to you catching a whole lot of things you don’t want or need in your life EVER!

Not only can having unprotected sex lead to you catching an STD, but it can also lead to an unwanted pregnancy.

If you’re going to have sex, be sure to wrap it up and be safe. You can purchase condoms at any supermarket or drugstore.

And don’t call yourself being too embarrassed to buy them. If you’re not too embarrassed to have sex, then don’t get all shy when you have to buy them. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to practice safe sex.

Birth control pills have to be prescribed by your doctor and since a trip to the doctor will involve your parents, it’s best if you’re straight up with them and let them know you want them.

3. Is it With Someone You Love or Care About?

LoveIf you’re not having sex with someone who means something to you then what’s the point?

Sex is something that’s shared between two people who have deep feelings for one another; not some random person.

It isn’t something you just do all willy nilly. If you’re going to give your goods away, at least share it with someone who cares about you just as much as you care about them.

It’s also not wise to have sex with someone who is pressuring you to do it. That’s a red flag and a definite indication that they don’t give to rocks about you.

Don’t fall for it. I don’t care if they threaten to leave you; hey, let em’ go. It’s clear that’s all they wanted. So let them go look for it somewhere else.

So There You Have It

If your answer is “No” to any of those questions above, then it’s probably not a good idea to have sex. With the decisions you make in life comes consequences.

Just be sure that you are ready to face those consequences and don’t ever think that it can’t happen to you because it can.

If you’re adult enough to do adult things, then be adult enough to face the outcome. But most importantly, whatever you do… BE SAFE!


  1. I didn’t having sex with someone if i will do sex so i will be safe .Thanks for sharing your thoughts .

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