But what happens when you find out they have a kid? Do you date them anyway or do you move on?
This can be a sticky situation. If you keep it moving, you’ll probably miss out on a great relationship. But if you decide to give them a shot, you’ll have to worry about being somewhat of a parent.
You have to decide what you’re up for. Think long and hard about this. Not to scare you or anything, but you want to make sure you’re making the right move.
Being a Teenage Parent Can Be Draining
Ask yourself. Are you ready to become a possible parent to this child? You might not be ready to become a teenage parent. It can be really draining.
Just because you’re not the actual parent of the child, doesn’t mean that you won’t have any responsibilities. Eventually you will. You can’t not date someone with a kid and not eventually become part of their life.
It doesn’t mean that you’ll have to stop having fun as a teen parent, it just means that you’ll have to make some adjustments. These adjustments may not be easy, but it’s what you’re signing up for.
Dealing With the Baby Mama
Whew! The whole baby mama drama really gets to me. It seems like every time I turn around there’s some type of issue with the baby being around the parent and their partner.
It doesn’t have to be difficult, yet many people make it that way. Just know that the mother and father will always have some form of communication going on because of the child. You can’t be mad at this.
The same thing goes for the baby daddy as well. I don’t get why there has to be conflict. You don’t have anything to do with the father and if anything, you two should be trying to get along.
The child shouldn’t have to grow up in an environment where there’s animosity. That’s not what you should want for the child. Instead, try your best to get along with the mother or father. Think about the child.
What Will Your Family Say?
Not only do you have to deal with your new partner and their child, but you also have to break the news to your family. What will they thing or say?
I don’t think they’d do back flips and start congratulating you. They might be a tad concerned about you dating someone with a kid just because you’d be looked at as a parent at some point.
You’d have to assure your parents that taking on your new partner and their child won’t have a negative effect on you. Understand their concern. They might not think that you’re ready to take on the responsibilities of being in a child’s life.
Will You Be Comfortable With the Child?
Once you’re at the point where you finally meet the child, how do you think you’ll feel? Do you think you’ll be comfortable enough to be around them?
If you’ve never really been around kids, then this is something you might want to think about. When around them, there may be times where you’ll have to go into mommy/daddy mode.
Let’s say the child falls and hurt themselves. If your partner isn’t around, will you know what to do? Will you know how to console them?
Will you know how to interact with them? There will be times when you’ll play with them, talk to them and teach them things. Is this something that you think you’ll be able to do?
You have to have some level of comfort with the child. If not, then the relationship could go sour and possibly end before it really begins.
Can You Maintain a Healthy Relationship With a Child Involved?
Let’s face it. There will be times when you’ll want to spend quality time with your partner but they might not be able to because they have to watch their child.
You might want to go out on a date but the child has to come with. Is this something that you’ll be able to handle?
Will you react by getting upset or will you be understanding and realize what you signed up for when you entered the relationship?
It’s not a bad thing if you can’t take it. It doesn’t make you a bad person at all. It just means that right now, dating someone with a child isn’t what you’re ready for.
Make a Decision That’s Right for You
Before you consider dating someone with a kid, think about what I’ve mentioned above and decide whether or not it’s worth it. Taking on a parenting role is a huge step and you’ll want to make sure that you can handle it.