How to Let Someone Down Easy

Imagine someone who really likes you, approaching you and telling you that they really like you. I mean they basically pour their little hearts out.

However, you don’t have an ounce of the same feelings for them. What do you do?

How do you tell this person in the nicest way possible that you don’t like them like that? Letting someone down easy can be a challenge. You have to figure out what to say without sounding mean or rude.

Well, here are some tips on how to let someone down easy.

1. Be nice – This may or may not be hard for you to do, but you don’t want to hurt this person’s feelings. Whatever you do, don’t be a jerk.

I’ve actually seen people be so rude to a person when asking them out that it’s ridiculous. The person they liked actually laughed in their face and said, “Are you kidding?”

That was so not called for. Realize that it takes a lot of guts for someone to ask you out or tell you how they feel about you. It’s not an easy task. The last thing you want to do is hurt them so bad that they never want to do it again.

2. Explain – You want to at least give a reason why you don’t return the same feelings. But again, be nice. Most of the time it’s because you know you’re not compatible with that person or they don’t have the qualities in a person that you’re looking for.

Don’t just tell that person no and then walk away. Give them closure and don’t make them feel like they’ve done something wrong.   A lot of times it’s not them.

I’ve come across great guys who liked me, but I just didn’t like them back. I just wasn’t feeling them and sometimes that’s all it is. But I didn’t make them feel like something was wrong with them and neither should you.

3. Offer alternatives – If you don’t like this person, then think about whether or not you’d want to be friends. If you think they’re a pretty cool person and they’re worth hanging out with, then offer friendship.

If you’re a great match maker, then see if you know someone who would be a great fit for them. If possible, don’t let them walk away empty handed.

They’ll already be disappointed because you just turned them down, so see if you can’t lift their spirits by offering to hook them up with someone you’d think would be a great fit for them.

Letting someone down easy isn’t the easiest thing to do, but it’s not the hardest either. Following the few suggestions above could mean the difference between a broken heart or lifted spirits.

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