It’s hard to believe that there’s domestic violence in teenage relationships, but there is. Adults aren’t the only ones with a temper and fists.
The reality of it is that it does go on and it needs to be addressed. No one should have to go through any type of violence while in a relationship.
Usually we think it’s the women who go through the abuse in the relationship, but guys can experience it as well. You may have heard about the arrest of MTV’s Teen Mom, Amber Portwood.
Apparently the 20 year old lost her temper and took it out on her baby’s daddy, Gary Shirley, by slapping, pushing, choking and verbally abusing him, while in the presence of their daughter.
Portwood had a problem with abusing prescription drugs and was to complete a drug rehab program. Crazy enough, she instead chose jail instead of completing the program. Congrats Amber, that move just cost you 5 years in prison!
I don’t want to dwell too much on Ms. Portwood, but I wanted to let you see where domestic violence can lead you… pretty much nowhere.
If you or someone you know is in an abusive relationship, there are things you can do to get help.
Leave the Relationship and Don’t Look Back
This is so easy to do, yet so hard. You find yourself connected to this person so much that it’s hard to leave them. I definitely understand that connection, but what about that connection from their fist to your face?
What’s more important, your safety or a relationship that you don’t want to let go because your partner keeps telling you that they promise not to do it again? Seems like option A is the best pick right? However, why do so many victims choose option B?
No matter how much they beg and plead, don’t take them back. You’re so much more important. If things really get rough to where they threaten with violence of you do leave, then that’s when we jump to the next option… getting the police involved.
Go to the Police
This may be a hard thing to do because the last thing we want to do is to put someone we cherish behind bars. However, it may be what they need in order for them to turn their lives around.
File a police report and even a restraining order if you think you need one. Don’t take any threats lightly. There are some crazy son of a guns out here in the world and the last thing this world needs is a picture of you on the news as the next breaking story.
Talk to Someone
If you’re really against going to the police, you at least need to talk to someone. Friends, family and even your church would be a good start.
Violence in teenage relationships isn’t rare and you need to go to someone. Just talking about it and getting some helpful tips and advice could be the difference between you moving on with your life life moving out without you.
To be honest, it’d have to be a freezing day in hell before I let anyone put their hands on me. I wish they would. So before my mom (yup, she’s a rider) cousins, uncles or aunts are put in prison for beating the brakes off of someone, I’d better handle it myself and take action.
Domestic violence in teenage relationships is never okay and it shouldn’t be a secret. If you or someone you know is in an abusive relationship, seek help. It’s your duty to protect your loved ones.