3 Reasons to Keep Your Virginity

As a teen you will be faced with many pressures as you go through life; sex being one of them. It’s one of the most common teenage problems.

Now days, everything seems to be about sex. It’s on videos, TV, in songs and it’s probably talked about greatly at your school. There’s no escaping it.

Even though you can’t control the way society is and what’s put out in the world, you do have control over what you do, with sex being one of them.

Being a virgin doesn’t mean that you’re a lame, square, geek or any of those stupid things. It’s actually the opposite. It’s often portrayed that if you’re not having sex, you’re lower than dirt and no one will like you. That couldn’t be further from the truth.

Just because you’re a virgin doesn’t mean that anything is wrong with you. You’re fine. It’s everyone else who is pressuring you into sex who has the problem. Keeping your virginity is a beautiful thing and here’s why…

You’ll Prevent Any Surprise Babies

There’s nothing funny about being a teen parent. If you’ve ever watched the show, 16 and Pregnant, then you know what I mean. It’s serious business.

A lot of teen sex results in pregnancies for young couples and you’re not exempt. Don’t think because it’s your first time having sex that you can’t get pregnant or impregnate someone. You’d be silly to think that.

Many first timers end up pregnant and that is not something you’d want to go through. Maybe you have a friend or know a teen parent. Look at their situation and tell me if that’s something you’d want to go through.

Remaining a virgin will ensure that you don’t get any surprises and that you can enjoy being a teen for as long as possible.

STD’s Won’t Be Able to Touch You

Here’s what bhg.com had to say about STDs among teenagers…

Of the 12 million cases of sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) that occur each year, 3 million (or 25 percent) are among teenagers. About 13 percent of youth ages 13 to 19 contract an STD each year.

That should be enough right there to make you not want to have sex. STDs are nothing to play around with and can affect you for the rest of your life. Are they curable? Some of them are, and some of them aren’t. However, sex is a risk and you don’t know what your partner has.

STDs don’t discriminate and many teens don’t practice safe sex. Abstinence is the only way to be 100 percent protected from STDs. No condom or contraceptive in the world can guarantee that.

Once You Lose it, You Can’t Get it Back

Point blank, when you give it up, it’s gone and there’s no getting it back. If that’s the case, why not make it special?

If you have sex just to see what it’s like or you do it because you’re pressured into it, you’ll come out being highly disappointed.

I can’t tell you how many times a girl has had sex with a guy, dumped her and then she’s left feeling stupid. It’s not worth it ladies. Your cookies should be more important to you than a one night stand.

I know that guys get clowned a lot for being a virgin, but it’s certainly not a bad thing for you either. It may seem cool to try to have sex with as many girls as you can, but it’s not. One it gets around about how you really are, then no girl will want you. Try to have much more respect for her as well as yourself.

Having sex can be a beautiful thing, but only when you’re in love, when you’ve found that special someone and in my eyes, when you’re married. Your virginity is a precious thing and you don’t want to just give it to anyone that easily.

How do you feel about virginity? Do you think teens should wait? Let’s talk about it.

Comments

  1. Teens should wait am waiting but its not so easy though.

    • I agree Kasham. Waiting is hard especially with the peer pressure that teens face nowadays. Some seem to think it’s the norm and that if you don’t have sex then you’re a lame or something like that. That’s not even the case. If you’re a lame just because you want to wait to lose your virginity to your husband or that special person and not to someone that you ended up having sex with because you got drunk at a party, then a lame you’ll be.

      • kerchael says:

        i too was being laughed at school and look what happened when i didnt wait…..scarlet can i tell u something….do u know i wasn’t born with a virginty..because when i first had sex with that person i did not bleed or nor did it hurt i felt no changes except forthe fat that im having sex…i did not get a good feeling it’s just like i just felt something and it’s just natural..then now i started having sex with someone else that is my special person now and now. i now have that guilt because i felt so bad that i didnt wait

        • Hi Kerchael,

          Sex can definitely feel that way if it’s your first time and with someone who you don’t love. It’s a learning experience and all you can do is learn from it and move on.

  2. It’s true, I get laughed at a lot for still having my virginity. People ask me why I haven’t done it by now. Honestly, virginity feels very sacred and special to me. It’s like white lace. Untouched, untainted. And saving it for one person and one person only I think is an admirable thing and I want to strive to be a good person.

    • Hi Laura,

      I really admire you for that. Good for you! Yes girl, keep it as long as you can because it is sacred and once you lose it you can’t get it back. I bet most girls wish they didn’t even do it their first time. You are rare and special. I wish more girls could be like that nowadays. Keep it up.

      • Its not an easy journey thou..scarlet most of ma friends have done sex,they advised me not to do it because it’s painful..well my boyfriend asked to have sex with me I told him that I can’t have sex with him am not ready,he said when I be ready and he said do I want him to find another girl who’ll be able to give him what he wants…..ifeel like I’ll lose him and I don’t want that to happen

        • Hi Lerato,

          Having sex with a guy is not the answer to keeping him. If you ask me this guy is a jerk and you’re better off leaving him. If he can’t respect your wishes of not having sex until you’re ready then he doesn’t deserve you. All that matters to him is sex. If it wasn’t, then he wouldn’t be so quick to leave you for another girl who will have sex with him. I know it may be a difficult thing to do right now, but you’ll be glad that you didn’t do it. Please don’t do it. You’ll feel like crap afterwards and you’ll immediately wish you hadn’t done it.

  3. I love my guy very much and its obvious we will get married one day but he advises me to keep myself for that special guy …. my presence alone turns him on but I find ways to control him when we romance …..I don’t have any problem loosing it to him but I feel it will be best if we have sex after marriage

    • Hi Sandra,

      I agree. I do think it’s best to wait until after you are married to have sex. I’m glad that you’re able to control your hormones and I know how tough it can be. I commend you for wanting to wait and him for suggesting that you wait for that special guy. It seems like you have your ducks in a row. Keep it up!

  4. Hello everyone, I’m Tonny. I don’t know about any of you but I’m a Christian. I’ve planned by the special grace of God to keep my virginity till I’m married. This is what God has said we should do in order to. I’m not just doing it because I want blessings from God but because I love God and sleeping with someone before I’m married will hurt him. And I’m trying my best not to do anything to hurt him. I’ve been told loads of time that I’m not a virgin because of how I look maybe, people get shocked when I tell them I am. It’s by the grace of God anyway. Keeping your virginty till your married is the best because I feel your spouse will respect you more and appreciate the fact that you waited so long, just for them.

    • Hi Tonny. I want to first say that I commend you on your efforts to wait on having sex until you’re married. You’re a very strong and special guy and there’s not many like you. I completely agree with you when you said that your spouse will appreciate you more. Waiting to have sex until marriage isn’t an easy thing to do but I’m glad you have the strength from God to make it happen. Kudos to you Tonny. There’s a lot that people could learn from you.

  5. This life is giving us so many reasons to loose our selves cus most married virgins are having a whole lot of marital problems. And to this , some counsellors are even encouraging sex before marriage all because you have to see if your partner is sexually active. it doesn’t work that way , especially on the side of God.when the world is standing in , we have to stand out .lets save our unborn generation.

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