Adults seem to think that being a teenager is easy and I used to think so as well. However, times have changed and things aren’t the same anymore.
I remember my mom would say, “All you have to do is go to school and do homework. What do you have to worry about?” What I was going through then was very minor compared to what you guys go through now.
Teens seem to have a lot more pressures now days and many adults aren’t seeing it; but I definitely see it. There are probably a lot more problems going on with teens now, but I’ve highlighted the top three I believe to be the most important.
Whew! Where do I begin? You know, I’ve often thought to myself that many of you guys don’t listen when you’re told to wait for sex. It’s like it goes through one ear and out the other.
Because you’re basically going to do what you want anyway, I’ve decided not to tell you to not have sex. Crazy right? Yea, I’m not gonna.
The thing is that to some teens are pressured into sex and some just do it because they’re curious. But it’s those reasons alone why there’s almost always a negative outcome.
If you’re having sex for those reasons, then you’re having sex for the wrong reasons. If you’re pressured into having sex then that means you’re letting other people control you. You’re letting them determine how you live in life. Shouldn’t you be in control of your own life?
If you’re curious about sex, having sex isn’t going to help. I mean I do believe that being hands on is a great way to learn, but that’s only to a certain extent.
So you’re probably wondering, “How do I learn about sex?” Well, sex ed can only get you so far, right? Not exactly. It can get you where you need to be and up to speed on sex. You don’t need to experience sex in order to understand it.
The outcomes of sex are both beautiful and dangerous all at the same time. You came from sex which is a beautiful thing. However, many STD’s are contracted through sex when not careful.
If you decide to have sex, be sure you’re doing it because you want to and not because someone else thinks you should.
You’re at a stage in your life where you’re starting to date and familiarize with the opposite sex. That’s a part of life. But don’t let your relationships get the best of you.
You’ll begin to experience puppy love and all that good stuff. You’ll also experience breakups, heartache and pain. It comes with the territory. But life goes on and so should you. It’s tough to get through a breakup and it’s alright to be down for a while, just don’t stay there for too long.
If you’re dealing with a smothering partner, then maybe you need to confront them about it. If you don’t, you’re liable to go crazy. Just be honest about how you feel. If your partner really cares about you, then they should understand.
You should be able to bond, trust and communicate with your partner. If you two can’t do those two things, then the relationship will not last.
Relationships should be healthy and in no way be abusive. If you’re in an abusive relationship, then it’s time to break up.
What you have to understand is that teens who bully have anger and issues that come from elsewhere. It could be something as them not being in a stable home and then BAM, they’re taking their anger out on you.
The way to handle bullies is to not feed into their drama. Most of them are a lot of talk but some of them can get physical as well. However, do your best not to egg on the situation.
If a bully says something out the way to you, ignore them. It may be hard to do, but if you don’t say anything to them, then they may stop attacking you. It’s when you respond with anger is what they want.
If you get to the point to where you can’t take it you can do this. Let’s say they come up to you and make a statement. You can look at them and say either of these phrases…
“Is that it?”
“Are you finished?”
“Thanks for the info.”
“I’ll remember that, thanks.”
You have to get into their heads. When they see that they can’t faze you and make you mad, then they will probably leave you alone. The one thing you don’t want to do is get weak.
Don’t get weak minded and let any bully defeat you. I can’t take it when I hear about a teenager committing suicide because they couldn’t handle being bullied. It should never have to come to that. Don’t let a bully push you to that point. They are not worth your time, let along your life.
There are always teachers, counselors and your parents that you can talk to. If the situation gets too bad, you could talk to your parents about switching schools. Do whatever you need to in order to solve the situation… within means.
I don’t mean do harm to the bully. That definitely won’t solve the problem. I just mean take the steps you need to in order to remove yourself from the situation.
So, there are your 3 common teenage problems. Do you have any other problems to add? Add a comment below and let’s discuss it.