Good Advice for Teenage Girls

I wanted to take a second and provide my ladies with some good, down to earth advice about life. I thought it was important for me to share this with you because I see so many teenage girls heading down the wrong path. I figure if I can steer just one of you down the right path, then I have a purpose for being here.

I’m a member of the allexperts.com website. Here I answer all different types of questions from teens. The thing that surprised me were the types of questions I was getting. You wouldn’t believe it… but then again, maybe you would.

Many questions I’m asked are related to sex. Those questions come from both males and females. However, it amazes me how many females have asked me questions about oral sex, it’s statistics and more. I mean it really shocked the hell out of me. So, I thought I would try to enlighten you on a few things.

You Are a Human Being, Not a Tool… Don’t Put Yourself Out There

I want you to understand that you are important and you mean something to someone in the world. Just because your friends are doing something doesn’t mean that you have to do it too.

So many girls are afraid of being different. They’re afraid of not being accepted or not fitting in. First of all, you shouldn’t give a rats ass (excuse my French) about being different or not fitting in. You are your own person and you should be proud of it. You weren’t put on this Earth to be like everyone else. You were put here to be you.

So what if you don’t dress like the popular girls. In what book does it say that you have to dress like someone else? In what book does it say that you have to do what everyone else is doing? No where right? So why would you want to do it?

Because you want to feel accepted right? You don’t want to be made fun of and you want to be liked right? Here’s the thing. Life is tough. People are going to make fun of you no matter what. People are going to say things about you and there’s nothing you can do about it. That’s just something you are going to have to learn how to deal with.

You are a beautiful person and there’s nothing wrong with you. Don’t follow the crowd. Be a leader and not a follower. There’s nothing wrong with being different.

Sex is Overrated

You might feel like just because your friends are having sex then you should too. There may have been times where you may have been made fun of just because you weren’t having sex. As you may already know, teenage sex isn’t uncommon.  It’s everywhere. However, you don’t have to do it if you’re not ready.

I’ll say this and I want you to think long and hard about it. Once you give up your cookies, you can never get them back. Once you have sex, you are no longer a virgin. Duh right? I agree. But a lot of teen girls don’t really understand it. They think, “Okay, so what I won’t be a virgin anymore,” but they don’t get the consequences that comes with it.

Your virginity is the most sacred thing that you own. Why would you want to give that away to someone who doesn’t deserve it? Why would you want to give it away to some guy you just met or to a boyfriend who has been trying his hardest to get you into bed? If you do decide to have sex, it’s on your own terms, not anyone else’s.

If you’re going to give up your cookies, make him work for it. Don’t be easy and empty headed. Think before you do anything. Then once you’re done thinking, think again. Show people that you are being taught by your parents to be a respectful young woman and not street trash. Because if you go around here having sex with random guys, that’s exactly what you’ll be labeled as.

I want you to make smart decisions. Life is what you make it. You will go through some tough times. I tend to think us ladies have it harder than guys just because of everything we go through. But part of becoming a woman is learning how to deal with situations as they’re thrown at you.

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