3 Tips on Dealing With a Smothering Partner

Relationships can be great right? In the beginning things are going as planned. You two do a lot of things together and you barely want to leave one another’s side.

But at some point you’re going to need some space. But what happens when you want the space but your partner doesn’t?

It’s like their being to clingy and sometimes you wish that they would just go away. You want to tell them, but you also don’t want to hurt their feelings. You don’t want to make it sound like you don’t want to be around them and you don’t want to scare them away, you just want some space. So, what do you do?

You have the right to your own time and space. Your world does not revolve around your partner. You have friends that you would like to have fun and hang out with as well. You just have to let your partner know that…

1. Break it to Them Gently

Because you don’t want to scare off your partner, you want to be as gentle as possible when telling them.

You could start off by saying that you enjoy the time that you two spend together, but you think that it’s time the two of you hang out with friends.

Try not to come off too strong. You definitely don’t want to give off the vibe that you don’t want to hang out with them anymore.

And whatever you do… please don’t say to them, “You’re smothering me.” That’s almost a sure way to breaking up, not to mention you may hurt their feelings.

2. Be Honest

Please don’t make up some lame excuse why you don’t want to hang out with your partner as much. You’ll eventually get caught in that lie.

You might mean well by perhaps telling them you have something to do that day or you have to hang out with family – but it would be a lot easier if you just came out and told the honest to goodness truth. Your partner deserves that much. Heck, they may not even be aware that they’re smothering you.

Have the decency to let them know why you want more space. If you’re honest with them, they should be understanding towards your feelings.

3. Make a Schedule

I might sound like an L7 (square if don’t know) here, but if you perhaps make up a schedule then your smothering days might be over.

You could sit down and determine which days you two will hang out and which days are strictly for friend’s time.

Again, it might sound lame, but it just might work. This way both of you have an equal amount of together and me time.

Absence does make the heart grow fonder. The more you two are away from one another, the more special your time will be when you see one another again. You can throw that one in too if you like.

Don’t let your partner drive you bananas. It can lead to a really stressful relationship which may lead to a non existent one.

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